It’s a phrase that rolls off the tongue so naturally: “So, what do you do?” Whether at a wedding, a networking event, or meeting a stranger for the first time, this question has become the default icebreaker. But here’s the uncomfortable truth: asking someone “What do you do?” is often the worst way to get to know them. It reduces, boxes, and sometimes even wounds people. In fact, it says more about us — and our assumptions — than it does about them. 🎭 It Reduces People to Their Jobs When you ask “What do you do?”, what you’re really asking is: “What is your occupation?” The assumption here is that a job equals a person’s identity. But people are far more than their titles. A nurse might also be a poet and the anchor of her community choir. A matatu conductor could be a brilliant entrepreneur building an online hustle on the side. A stay-at-home dad might be shaping his children’s lives in ways no salary can measure. By starting with “what do you do?”, you flatten a whole human ...

  In a world chasing quick wins, shortcuts, and overnight success stories, there’s one quality that quietly outperforms them all: consistency . You don’t need to be the smartest, the most talented, or even the most connected to succeed. What you need is the discipline to keep showing up, day after day . Talent may give you a head start, but consistency is what takes you to the finish line. 🚀 Why Consistency Outshines Everything Else Small Steps Compound – Just like investments, consistent actions multiply over time. Ten minutes of daily reading builds more knowledge than one weekend marathon. Trust and Reliability – In business and relationships, people value those they can depend on. Showing up consistently builds credibility. Focus Amid Distractions – In an age of noise and endless options, consistency cuts through the chaos and creates direction. 🧠 Consistency Is a Skill, Not a Trait Many people think consistency is just “for the disciplined.” But in realit...

In some communities in Africa, circumcision has long been seen as the defining line between boyhood and manhood. For generations, once a boy underwent the rite, he was expected to shed childish ways and embrace the responsibilities of an adult. This perception created a sudden shift in identity : overnight, a boy became “a man.” But perhaps it’s time we asked ourselves — is manhood really something that happens in a single moment? Or is it a longer journey of growth, learning, and responsibility? 🎓 The New Education System, Old Traditions Traditionally, in Kenya for instance (especially Central Kenya) circumcision has often been timed after Class 8 . It was a neat cultural alignment: boys completed primary school, then transitioned to secondary school as young men. But with the introduction of the 2-6-3-3 system (CBC) , this rhythm has been disrupted. Learners now transition to the next level of the system until after Grade 9 (the third 3 in the system). Parents are left asking: ...

Life has a way of throwing us into situations where the path isn’t clear. A big decision. A painful loss. A new challenge. Or even the quiet restlessness of not knowing what’s next. We’ve all been there — standing at a crossroads, paralyzed between options. So, what should you do when you don’t know what to do? Why We Feel Stuck Before diving into solutions, it helps to understand why this happens. Common causes include: Overwhelm: Too many tasks or possibilities make it hard to choose. Fear of making the wrong choice: Worry about consequences can freeze action. Lack of clarity: Uncertainty about goals or priorities creates a mental gridlock. Decision fatigue: Constant decision-making drains mental energy, making even simple choices feel impossible. Recognizing that this is normal is the first step. Feeling stuck isn’t a personal failing—it’s a signal that you need focus and small, intentional actions. 1️⃣ At the Moment (Short-Term Response) Sometimes the hardest part is just not pa...

There is one guarantee in life: death . Everything else — wealth, health, relationships, success, failure — carries uncertainty and variation. But death is universal. It does not discriminate. It visits the young and old, the rich and poor, the prepared and unprepared. Yet most of us live as though it is distant, irrelevant, or even taboo to think about. We treat death like an intruder we dare not name. But paradoxically, reflecting on our death — and the death of our loved ones — is not morbid. It is life-giving. 🪞 Death Brings Perspective We often waste energy on petty fights, ego battles, and endless comparison. But the thought of death cuts through the noise. Ask yourself: If I knew I had one month to live, would this really matter? Suddenly, grudges shrink. Vanity fades. What truly matters — love, integrity, service, presence — comes into focus. ⏳ Death Reminds Us of Time Time feels infinite when we are young, but it is not. Every birthday, every wrinkle, every funeral is...

We’ve all felt it. That sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach. The months spent meticulously planning a project, the careful nurturing of a relationship, the slow and steady building of a reputation—all of it can seem to evaporate in a single, unthinking moment. A harsh word spoken in anger. A careless error in a final draft. A moment of poor judgment captured on camera. This is one of life’s most frustrating asymmetries: Creation is a slow, arduous process, but ruin can be achieved in seconds. Why is this the case? Why does the scale so heavily favor destruction? The answer lies in the fundamental nature of both acts, a truth powerfully illustrated in some of history's oldest stories. The Deliberate Labor of Creation To create something is to fight against entropy. It is an act of bringing order from chaos. Every step requires intention, energy, and time. The Foundation: This is the phase of research, planning, and gathering resources. It’s invisible work, done alone, with no...